If you are anything like me, you may have a love/hate relationship with Valentine’s Day. So many disappointments; feeling like the ONLY person in the world who didn’t get a card, or a rose, or a message of undying love. I would previously scowl everytime anyone mentioned V-day, declaring that it was a load of old rubbish, designed by the retail companies to make us feel emptier and more broken than ever so that we rush out and buy more stuff.
Even back to when I was a kid, I remember girls at school getting teddies and cards from their fathers and rolling their eyes whilst clutching those little bears holding hearts and just radiating adoration. I longed for that feeling, of knowing that I was wanted and cherished and special.
Me and Valentine’s Day….“It’s complicated”
Maybe you can relate to this, or maybe you LOVE Valentine’s day. Maybe you are newly coupled and excited to shower your lover with physical and emotional affection (hot tip: find out their love language before you make your plan!) Maybe you had completely forgotten about February 14th until you saw this post. Maybe you’re in a long-term relationship and are excited for a pause in the regular scheduled programming to just stop and remember why you decided to share this world together. Maybe you are single and are expecting the day to be like any other day in quarantine…
Whatever situation you are in, my invitation to you is to invite more love into your life this year. That could look differently for each of us but I have a universal hack that I fully believe will attract more love into your life. To explain, I want to tell you a little story…
My mystery admirer
Last month I was getting my mail and I noticed a handwritten card jumbled in amongst the flyers and bills. Now this is 2021 and the number of penned letters I get is low …except for the few treasured friends and family members who still send me birthday and christmas cards. Now this was in mid-January, which we all know is a month when we have nothing to celebrate (except for the Aquarius’ amongst us!) I peered at the card, perplexed. It looked like my sister’s handwriting but it was postmarked from the US….and my sister is 2,000 miles away in the UK. I was intrigued.
I took my card, bills and junk mail forgotten, and sat on the couch to find out who my secret messenger was. Here’s what I read…
In 2021 I want you to know you are enough and you are on the path. You are doing the work and I’m SO proud of you for all you have achieved. Let your light shine bright and don’t let anything or anyone hold you back. You are so powerful. Thank you for everything you bring into this earth. So much love and compassion and joy. Keep looking for those things that light you up and stay in your truth. Your truth matters.
Laura (in 2020)”
That’s right, you guessed it….My secret admirer was ME from a whole year ago!! I honestly had NO memory of writing those words but somehow they were exactly what I needed to hear in the moment and hit me straight in the heart. I smiled through tears in my eyes and felt so deeply connected to myself, self-love coursing through me.
My Valentine’s Day hack
This year as I write my Valentine’s card for my fiance I will be writing another, for me. If you are thinking that this is too self-indulgent, let me ask you this — how much love do you really show yourself throughout the day, week or year? If you are anything like the rest of us, then most of the love you have to give is spent on others.
If you are ready to invite and attract more love this V-day, here are some suggestions of ways to get the most out of the experience:
- Set aside some time for you to write your card without interruptions. Do something that feels indulgent to you — put on some special music, clothes, devour some luxury chocolates or light a candle.
- Ask yourself, what do I want to honor most about myself? Tap into your heart space by taking some deep breaths into your chest. And let the words flow.
- Don’t rush the process — maybe the words will come easily or maybe it’ll take some time. Be patient with yourself.
- Consider swapping cards with a friend and making a commitment to send them to each other (unopened!) in a year’s time for Valentine’s 2022.
- If you are tech-savvy, you can opt to write an email instead of a physical card and use the schedule functionality to send it on Valentine’s day 2022! I guarantee that you will forget all about it and will receive a loving surprise in your inbox next year.
Above all else, please use February 14th this year to celebrate and cherish yourself. The more love you show yourself, the more your cup will be filled with loving energy to give to others.
More self-love resources
If you’d like a practice to help fill yourself up with Self-love and acceptance, here is a 15 minute guided practice from my Learn to Love Your Life program. And if you’d like to learn more about my journey to manifesting love and partnership, watch my 40 minute February webinar (just sign-up with your email for FREE webinar access!)